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This lady is brutally honest! Wow!!
There is nothing new under the sun. I am going to start by answering your last question. Any regrets? Absolutely none. A writer once said “Alone, a man is sincere to himself but from the approach of another, hypocrisy begins”. In the quiet of my room, I have pondered on my actions and inactions and I have come to the conclusion that life is in phases and I went through a phase that I am not ashamed of. We all know what we are doing. So before anyone bashes me here, know that I have already bashed myself and so I won’t feel an iota of hurt.
In my 300 level, with my vision very clear, my father still very rich and my emotions very intact, I knowingly walked into a “symbiotic (mutually beneficial)” relationship with a married man for 3 damn years!! Was the talk of the department, it still paid off as I made “best Graduating Student”. This married man got admitted for his third degree and he had to start from 300 level.
I guess he was too busy to read and he was all about acquiring certificates and so it turned out that when he resumed. With his influence, he spoke to a lecturer to link him up with a very studious and smart student so that he doesn’t have to stress himself while also clearing all his papers. I was that student!. Although I didn’t know that I was being used in that regard. It started casually. He would buy lots of things for my colleagues both male and female but would get me the most things. I didn’t read a single meaning to it. He would call and say “hello colleague, please I won’t be around for two weeks, could you help me with all my assignments and when there’s a test, help me write it and I assure you that should in case you encounter any difficulty while trying to help me with the test, I’ll bail you out smoothly”. So it began, my journey of a “double academic life”. My father would turn in his grave if he knows his “graceful and excellent daughter” did this.
In life, nothing lasts forever. After many weeks, I began to be tired of helping this man because while working on group projects as the lead and studying for my exams and helping him it began to take a toll on me. I didn’t tell him all that. I just slacked and made up many excuses. One day he sent a senior colleague to me to make his intentions known that he was asking me out. This came as a rude shock to me. I was 24. Was disvirgined at 22 and just recently lost that relationship. I didn’t speak to him for days and his academics was suffering. He didn’t want any other student to help him except me. I confided in a girlfriend of mine and she said “well, I can’t force you to do what you wouldn’t want to do, but trust me, you would never be the looser if you date him”.
Evil communication corrupts good manners. That’s a lie ooo, na me wan spoil. After few days, my journey into the world of dating a married man began. Within a space of two months, with his influence, received my state scholarship (I was on scholarship till I graduated). My father was still sending my fees, married man was still boxing me up bastardly, I was doing all his school work and leaving no stone unturned. The sex was mind blowing. Everybody was happy. I came out best Graduating and he followed at my back. (no way was I going to allow him to stand in front).
Writing this just made me remember him with smiles. We all have that story!! Thank you for your time.
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She just recently started dating a married man who promised to buy her a car. She’s enjoying it.
I recently started dating a married man and to be honest it has been the best relationship so far. I’ve experienced things I haven’t experienced before. His wife isn’t aware of the relationship. I don’t even bother knowing her. He has been amazing and I don’t know if in the future I will regret it but as of now, I enjoy it. He’s there for me financially, emotionally.
There are some things I can’t tell my friends that I tell him. I have this trust and respect for him because apart from what we’re doing, he respects himself. He encourages me to be better especially at school and he promised if I graduated with a 2nd class upper he’s going to get a car for me. I know what I’m doing is wrong but this is my best so far. I got in trouble in school recently with a lecturer and he was the one that came to sort it out for me under the guise of “being my uncle”. I don’t know what I would have done at that point, but he has come through for me severally. I don’t sleep around, it’s funny. I’m being faithful because of infections shaa. We talk well and there are ways he handles things a boyfriend can’t. There are things I may be complaining about that once he just places a call, it’s settled. Maybe in the future I may regret this but I don’t for now.
