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Jane, 28
My married boyfriend lives in the UK with his family, he only comes to Nigeria once in 3 months to attend to his business and spend a week with me. He was stuck with me during the lockdown and I saw hell. I was never used to cooking but he demanded that I cook three times daily. I spent most of my days watching how to make different Yoruba meals on YouTube. I make efo every day because that’s his favorite and it has to be freshly cooked.
That was still bearable until I realized how dirty he was. He would neither bath nor brush his teeth until I beg him to. He doesn’t change boxers at all, he would say it’s not like panties for females and you can wear one several times. Most of the time he uses the toilet, I end up flushing it for him. I hated that I didn’t notice any of those before. The day he left my place was my happiest day on earth because I was tired. His wife must be a hero.
Priscilla, 26
I had just moved to a new estate where my married boyfriend stays. He rented the apartment for me because he wanted me to stay close to him. After a few weeks, I met a lady at the gym, she was a very cute married woman and I liked her vibes. We exchanged numbers and became friends. It was his birthday and the lady posted him on her WhatsApp status as her husband, e shock me!
Two other girls in my compound posted him too as their boyfriends. I later found out that he owns the house he claimed to have rented for me and he just puts all his girlfriends there, it was so coded that I never saw him enter the compound before unless he came for me. I confronted him and he said I should mind my business or move out of his house. I’m still busy minding my business.
Nana, 25
I accepted to date him because he said he wasn’t happy in his marriage and he needed me to bring him joy. He added that sex with his wife was so boring and he wouldn’t mind exploring it with me. I thought I’d die the first time I had sex with this man, we kept having sex back-to-back and he didn’t seem to be tired.
This went on and on for four months, we meet up for sex 3 times a week and we spend hours doing it each time, it wasn’t an easy experience for me. I didn’t get a dime from him because he never gave me and I was too shy to ask. I waited till the 6th month to see if there would be any changes. It didn’t happen so I broke up with him, because it started looking as if he was just using me.
Fathia, 28
I had dated him for 3 good years without knowing he was married. He lives in Abeokuta and I live in Lagos so most of the time, he comes down to Lagos to visit me. I found his home address in one of the documents he kept at my place and I thought giving him a surprise visit would be perfect on his birthday. I hired a surprise company because I wanted the day to be special for him. The gateman didn’t even hesitate to open the gate for us because he knew we wanted to surprise him.
As soon as the trumpet blew, one short dark woman came out and was looking surprised and grumpy. She went back inside and came back with her husband (my boyfriend) and 4 children, his last born were twins. I didn’t even know when I collapsed after seeing them. I woke up to meet myself drenched in water and being blown air by the ‘surprise’ people. They said he told them to carry me out after I collapsed and that we must have missed the road because he doesn’t know me.
OIivia, 30
I was dating a married man that I met from work and my boyfriend knew about it, the plan was to get some money from him but things went south after I got pregnant. The married man wanted me to abort because he doesn’t want a child out of wedlock. My boyfriend said I should keep it because he thought he was the only one having sex with me then, I was also confused because I didn’t know to whom the pregnancy belonged.
I wasn’t going to abort because it is a taboo in my family. I confessed to my boyfriend that I had sex with the man and he stopped talking to me, the married man also blocked me everywhere after I insisted that I didn’t want to abort. I ended up losing the pregnancy and lost my boyfriend of 4 years too.
Gift, 30
My boyfriend texted me one day that he needed N500k urgently which I didn’t hesitate to send to him because whenever he borrows from me, he adds to it when paying back. I found it weird when he said he wanted it in his wife’s account, he explained why and I sent it. He told me to meet him at a restaurant later that evening, was about to step out of my car when a woman came out of nowhere and rushed me with slaps at the car park.
I thought it was rapture’ It took me about 5 minutes to regain my sight and saw that it was the man’s wife. I tried fighting back but she and her friend overpowered me. Remember that she had tricked me to send her money as well. I called my boyfriend but he just said sorry and advised me not to call the police because she’s a top police officer. If only she knew that “what God has joined together, she cannot put asunder “. Na me go still help her use that her husband old.
Lydia, 26
He found out that I was seeing another guy and was sweating profusely telling me I broke his heart. I got confused because I kept wondering if I wasn’t supposed to have my own family. The next day at exactly 6:12 am, he texted me that he was at my door which was surprising because it has never happened before. We talked about the whole boyfriend issue, he kept saying I can’t cheat on him and I also insisted that I am trying to build a family too since he doesn’t plan to marry me. He made a call and I heard “you guys can come in”, omo! That’s how 2 guys entered and told me to start packing my load, ah! Are we going on baecation?
I didn’t want to but I was threatened with guns. They waited while I packed all my stuff and he said, “if you want to be f*cking another guy, it can never be in the house I paid for, since the only thing you brought here are your clothes, pack them and go.” 0mo! Fear catch me. So this is what I get after dating you for 3 years? The agent of the house appeared and gave me a document to sign so I don’t return to that house. My family in Mushin saw me with my load that morning, they think say na my ghost.
Vicky, 25
Young guys have shown me pepper, so I decided to date an older guy, he was married with two kids. I didn’t know how broke he was until we started dating. He never gave me money willingly so I decided to ask him for money one day. He sent the money 5 days later after telling me different stories every day. Guess what! This man sent me N3, 150. Ahhhh! For what?! Is it for eba?!
He said he added the N150 so I could take bike of N50 and withdraw with pos for N100. One day, I told him I needed N200k to add to my house rent, he said where do I expect him to see it, that even his wife dare not ask him for N20k at once not to talk of N200k. He said the only amount he could afford to help me add to the house rent was 10k, I made him send the N10k before I blocked him everywhere.
