How many times have they been caught and why did the wives stay?
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This one is tough but she’s still in the marriage.
To be honest with you, I’m a ticking time bomb. I’m patiently waiting for my babies to come of age, while I get hold of what I can. Currently, one can look me in the eyes and swear I’m happy (that’s exactly the script I’m writing). I’m broken, even damaged. None of my family supports my marriage, even my so called in-laws pretends not to see all the wrongs, the hurts and humiliation.
My husband has framed me up twice, but God keeps vindicating me. He lies against me and acts as the victim. He asked me few months back, “what keeps you going? That my heart is solid to absorb hurt, why?”. It then dawned on me that this man is trying to push me out at any cost. My damn husband raped my sister in my bedroom, I didn’t know until later. The way he lavished gifts on her, I was glad he was extending the love, unknown to me he was buying her silence. Most of his female workers I get close to, even allow them access to my home, I got to know he sleeps with them all.
During the period of our separation, his secretary makes video of herself in our bedroom and uploads on her status (damn), she later blocked me from viewing her status. I confronted him about it, his response “in your absence, she makes my meal and use the time she has to make videos, I see nothing wrong with that”.
I finally got back to the house. Two weeks to my arrival, I left for school, got back earlier than usual, I met her with him (him in only underwear) on the staircase, she greeted me with bloated eyes, I responded and walked past them, I couldn’t stand it. I called her into my bedroom to know why she traveled and what she was doing in my house looking all swollen. Lo and behold, she told me she was pregnant, but with claims that the guy refused to take responsibility (lol… I don’t need a seer to tell me my husband is responsible). That girl still works for my husband in another firm. At least, he listened to me when I told him I don’t want to meet her presence anywhere near my home. I keep forgiving him over and over, but I realized I’m not just forgiving him because he treats me any better, but because I’m waiting for a perfect time to explode. I know I deserve better, I’m glad my babies are getting the best of their dad.
He disrespects my family. He once invited my parents to say lame things about me to their face. My mum told him he could have tackled the issue well enough without inviting them. He felt his ego was shoved off, from that moment, he detests my people for telling him the truth.
This same man had instructed one of his side chic to engage me in a fight. Right in his office, the girl got physical with me, while my dearest hubby sat and was filming us. We got to the station and he was telling the police that I abused the girl (if I had a gun on that faithful day, I would have pulled the trigger) but thank God for my siblings who intervened. Story plenty, the day I opened up to my family, my mum cried, my dad was shocked to the bone.
I thought I could handle my marriage myself without the interference of anyone. He has a PA (woman) who knows every damn thing about me, he doesn’t hide anything from her. The few things I know about him was when I was still close to her, but when I discovered she helps cover up his tracks because he sorts her out, I broke the ties and told her she wasn’t a good person (I’m glad she has baby girls, they will experience what their mum took part in my marriage). There’s no peace for the wicked.
I console myself, because I have a diary where I put things down, the good, the bad, the ugly. My thoughts for my husband are thoughts of good, but I must get my own pound of flesh. I can’t believe I still have tears left in me while putting this down. Things dey occur oooo. I’m sorry for the long composition. May God bless you.
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She discovered that he cheated when she traveled abroad. Caught him again another time. She stopped checking his phone 5 years ago and she still sees him as an amazing husband. They’re 15 years strong.
I am one of those women that could swear hubby would never cheat on me and I remained naïve for the first 6 yrs of marriage. God!
My hubby absolutely loved me and took care of me and put me first in everything he did/does. So, first time I suspected him was a lady calling him and the number wasn’t saved, he made it look like the girl was the one disturbing him. Then I travelled abroad and came back only for me to see a used condom in my guest room. He told me his friend and his wife passed the night and I foolishly believed. I later on discovered that he brought a lady home but not immediately, it took another 3 years to know this for a fact.
Second time, his movements and phone calls made me unsettled and I checked his phone. That was the first and last I ever checked his phone. To say I was heartbroken is an understatement, I had so many questions, like was I not good enough? Why did you love me so much if you could hurt me like this? I thought we had an absolutely amazing marriage. That shook the very foundation of my marriage and in the next years of this marriage, I worked on my mind to truly forgive him cause he is an absolutely amazing man and I know he loves me. I have not checked his phone after this second episode 5 years ago. I don’t know if he’s cheated again and I honestly don’t care. I would marry him again in my next life and I strive every day to be a good wife because he deserves all the happiness in this world. PS: we are 15 years married.
