His wife, legally married deserted home since February 6 last year and every attempt made to resolve the issue has been unproductive. From family intervention to religious intervention.
The Story
She left after I had caught her having extra marital affairs and using spiritual items in my home. I had saved all this evidence on a flash drive which she deleted before she left home, though I was able to retrieve them through a tech guy. Now my issue is our daughter has been a victim as I have only been able to see her on 3 occasions since February 6th till date. I decided to pursue legal means and her last known address which is her office address has been sealed by the EFCO. Her line is off and her parents who have been staunch supporters for her have refused to release details of her whereabouts. The court can’t serve her papers and my lawyer is saying we need to find her. I can’t even track her for she to be served.
We lived in Lagos and she moved to Ibadan (her parents house). She was there until August when the father claimed she has moved out. I can’t even speak to our child, I have never abused our daughter or done anything but shown love to the child.
Mother in-law was a big influence in destroying the marriage. Calls in the morning, afternoon and night. I told her the daughter was cheating with her neighbor’s son, I have WhatsApp chats of she and the boy sexting. They had been sleeping with each other before we got married and relationship continued into our marriage. She deleted evidence before she left home but I was able to get tech guys to retrieve it and you won’t believe this girl went home and cooked up a story. The mother told me she’s disappointed in me that I can’t say her daughter is sleeping with some senator or bank manager but their next door neighbor.
My only problem is that she’s running from the court now, you don’t want marriage again fine, we have a kid together and you can’t cut me out of my kids life nor would I allow you ruin the innocent kid just like your mom did. To make matters worse, she manipulated me to keep quiet about her wrongs while she constantly bring my wrong to the world, it’s either you support her side of the story or you get blocked. You don’t want to marry again, it’s fine with me but what’s the offence of my child, I can only imagine the story she feeds the child when the child asks of me. The world is always blaming deadbeat fathers who remove themselves from their kids life. I am fighting to be in my kids life and this lady and her family don’t want me to be part of it, I want to take up my responsibilities and yet this ones are saying no.
From August that the father claimed she moved out of the house I have not seen, spoken or even know where my child sleeps. I have taken this person to court, lawyers have reached out and yet no responses. I just found myself mixed with a toxic family. As soon as we have issues, she’s running home and the door is always wide open. She and her mom have manipulated the dad so much he can’t see truth, he can’t believe his daughter lies. I even showed him chat evidence of her discussing with her herbalist where she complains she doesn’t see the effect of the charm on me and that one prescribes another charm and she told her father it’s aphrodisiac
If it’s how I care for our child, you would think my home was a supermarket. When the child was still on food, she would boastfully tell her friends that the child can’t eat the same food same day so I was bursting my ass everyday to provide materially and emotionally for them both. I’m not the best husband but I don’t and won’t list what I do for my family but the problem is I got married to an individual who sees only the negative and an individual that can’t even look at themselves in the mirror and see their own faults, an an individual that can’t even admit their own mistakes. When you get married to a woman who’s mother is bent on being the 3rd party in a marriage, it spells doom.
